I am going to keep track of
lessons I learn from my children. There are so many and frankly I hope that I
won't make the same mistakes again or won't need to be taught these same
lessons again.
So last week it was a normal
day! It started with Eden not wanting to go to kindergarten because he was
feeling tired. I let him stay in bed until he was ready to get up and go to
kindergarten. I walked with him and enjoyed talking to him on our way to
kindergarten.
In the evening things took a
different direction. There were a lot of crying and whining and tantrums
involved. I felt horrible and discouraged. I felt like a bad mom and that I was
failing my children.
We all went to bed. My husband
and I prayed as we do every night. I fell asleep with my eyes wet with
tears.
In the morning I felt much
better. I decided to try do things differently. Spend more time with my son, be
more playful and fun. Needless to say, that the day turned out amazing and with
no tantrums.
I realized that we as parents
have power to change our attitude towards every situation and as a result
change the situation.
So, who is to blame about the
bad day? I am the parent, the adult. I know what triggers my kids and I should
try harder to help them. Be their safe place when they are having big emotions.
It is not easy for me to try and be fun because most of the time their behavior
affects my mood, and I am not usually willing to still be happy and fun. I am
willing to put in the work rather than have the situation get worse for all of
us to have a horrible day. God is our constant companion in parenting. He is the best parent. He strengthens and guides me to understand my children better and to be the best mom I can be.
Positive parenting is not easy,
but it is so worth it!
Farewell until the next lesson!
Pictures of the precious boy
whom I call mine!
